This is not an easy thing for me to confess, so please be kind.

I realized that I am afraid of getting better.  Not because I am afraid of being well; I want nothing more than to be well.  I am afraid of getting better because I am afraid that I won’t.  In other words I am afraid of disappointment.  I am afraid that I won’t get better in both the long and short terms.  I am terrified in fact.

I’ve been having a rough time emotionally with the new diagnosis of Myasthenia Gravis and this prolonged hospitalization (over 4 weeks now).  It’s been a grieving process.  Lots of different emotions.  Lots of tears shed quietly making it hard to breathe the oxygen coming through my nasal cannula.

But I’ve had a breakthrough as well.  My friend Monique and I had a wonderful discussion about all this out of which I created a new way to be in this experience of being ill which is to experience it as quite the opposite.  I created the possibility of being Creatively Courageously Embracing Health.  This means that I don’t have to be afraid of not getting better because I am Creatively Courageously Embracing Health.

Creatively Courageously Embracing Health

As I continue this journey Creatively Courageously Embracing Health, I have undergone 3 treatments of plasmapheresis.  The improvements have been huge!  I can move my legs again without the help of medication (though the medication further improves my strength levels)!  I can also breath a lot better and my voice is stronger as a result.  My doctors are deciding if I’m going to have 2 more treatments or if we are just going to stick with the 3.

Then begins the long process of rehabilitation.  Being weak and/or paralyzed for so long has really set me back, since I am Creatively Courageously Embracing Health I know I will find a way to get where I am meant to be.  I will courageously push to but not past my limits to recover and then I will creatively adapt the rest of the way so I will be where I want to be in embracing my health.

I just hope you will all embrace this possibility with me!

When you are living with multiple chronic illnesses things can quickly spiral out of control.  Cruising along getting through the day to day and then suddenly you are veering off the road and into the dark unknown.

What started as a tiny pimple turned into a nightmare.  I got a cellulitis infection on my neck which triggered a chain of events leading to a devastating new diagnosis.  How did I get here alone in the dark and how do I get back on the road?

When the tiny “pimple” grew to half my neck in size in 72 hours time, my doctor told me he’d meet me in the ER.  When you are immunocompromized (as I am), you don’t take risks with infections.  I decided to have my caregiver Nathalie drive me an hour to the big city hospital where all my specialists are on the off chance they decided to admit me.  This turned out to be a wise move on my part as I they almost immediately decided to admit me for IV antibiotics.

But even as the infection started to clear over the next few days of IV vancomyocin, things started to go downhill.  A familiar yet mysterious pattern emerged reminiscent of my hospitalization in May.

I developed both blurry and double vision.  Then I started having severe weakness borderline on paralysis in my left leg.  Then my right leg.  That is where things had stopped in the past and in May, but this time the paralysis continued to ascend.  I could no longer control my bladder and had to be catheterized.  Then I began having trouble moving my arms.  Finally my breathing muscles were effected.

My doctors quickly moved me to the ICU.  Effectively paralyzed, I was intubated and put on a ventilator.  I received a high dose pulse of steroids to help calm down my immune system which was attacking my nerves, preventing me from breathing on my own.

After a week of having  a machine breathe for me.  I was able to breathe on my own again and was moved out of the ICU to a monitored floor.  But the mystery remained.  What had caused all this?

Well the answer came in the form of another infection – a kidney infection.  With the new infection the blurry/double vision and paralysis got worse again rather rapidly.  Turns out the antibiotic being used to treat the infection can make symptoms worse for people with a certain disease which matched many of  the symptoms I have.

So my neurologist decided to test it by giving me a medication called Mestinon which specifically helps weakness in people with this disease.  Sure enough within  a very short time of taking the medication I could move my legs again!  And when the medication wears off I go back to near paralysis.

And so last night my doctor officially diagnosed me with Myasthenia Gravis.  And here I am veared off the side of the road with this scary new diagnosis.  And unfortuantely this new diagnosis doesn’t replace any of my other diagnosises.  I still have Sjogren’s Syndrome, Autoimmune Pancreatitis, Autoimmune Hepatitis, Hashimoto’s Thyroidis, Fibromyalgia, and so on and so forth.  And I still have an undiagnosed neurological component – the autoimmune brain stem inflammation.

Here’s some information about Myasthenia Gravis from the Mayo Clinic site:

Myasthenia gravis (mi-uhs-THEE-ne-uh GRA-vis) is characterized by weakness and rapid fatigue of any of the muscles under your voluntary control. The cause of myasthenia gravis is a breakdown in the normal communication between nerves and muscles.

There is no cure for myasthenia gravis, but treatment can help relieve signs and symptoms — such as weakness of arm or leg muscles, double vision, drooping eyelids, and difficulties with speech, chewing, swallowing and breathing.

What I had was what’s called a Myasthenic Crisis where my breathing muscles became too weak to do their job.  Scary!  That is why I ended up on a ventilator in the ICU for a week.  Now it was all starting to make a frightening sort of sense.

I just got moved to a non-monitored floor, so I’m overall doing much better physically.  Though I have several tests scheduled for next week to determine where the disease process is at and if I still need a special kind of blood filtering called plasmapheresis to help me recover the rest of the way.  I also have to have a scan checked to see if I might need surgery as well.  That’s in the short term.  In the long term I still need to get off all the prednsione I’m on that has somewhat been keeping this disease at bay.  That means some harder core immunosuppressant medications or possibly chemo agents to suppress my immune system so it will stop attacking me.

But where does this all leave me emotionally?  Well its like I’ve veered off the road.  This diagnosis wasn’t on the route I was expecting to travel.  And I suddenly feel alone in the dark in a strange place and I don’t quite know where I am.  On one hand I am happy to finally have some answers.  On the other hand this is not a good diagnosis to have.  The idea of ending up back on a ventilator in the ICU every time this gets flared up terrifies me.

It’s tempting to just act the the scared little girl I feel like and curl up in the corner and have a good long cry.  But that won’t really get me anywhere but feeling more miserable and in just a bad situation.  So how do I get back on the road?

I think I will have that cry.  I need to vent some of the shear grief I’m experiencing at the news of this diagnosis.  I’m really really scared and I shouldn’t feel like I have to hide that or put on a happy face to please everyone.  I need some time to feel the weight of my diagnosis and experience the bad feelings associated with it without denying them or stuffing them down.  This doesn’t mean I will wallow in them either though.  But there is a time and place for a healthy dose of sadness.  In fact, I believe it’s perfectly possible to be deeply sad about something and still consider yourself a happy person.

So I’ve veered off the road and had my cry in the dark.  How do I get back?  Now more than ever I must turn to God and Christ to guide me back.  To provide me the strength and comfort I need.  With them I will never be alone in this.  I turn to them in prayer and in the study of scripture.  When people tell me how strong I am in all this, I really feel all that strength isn’t me at all, but my faith in Christ.  With the Holy Ghost as my constant companion  I can’t feel too afraid.  And I can’t feel alone.  The knowledge of Christ’s eternal love for me and knowledge of the pain I’m going through guides me back to the path so that I am no longer veered off the road in the dark.

Finally I have to have trust in myself that I can get through this.  I have found ways to adapt to every obstacle in my path thus far, and I will find ways to adjust to this too in time.  Yes right now I feel crushed, but I will not let this crush me.  I feel devastated, but this will not devastate my spirit.  But in the meantime, to be perfectly honest, there will be a lot of tears shed.  And I’m okay with that.  It’s all part of the process of getting back on the road again.

“Too young.”

That is a phrase I have heard a lot in different contexts since I’ve been dealing with chronic illness.  I’ve been told I’m “too young to be this sick”, “too young to have to use a wheelchair”, and “too young to have to use a walker”.  Most recently I was told I’m “too young to increase my dose of pain meds” by my pain management specialist.

I went to my monthly pain management specialist appointment last week.  I’ve been having a lot more pain some days lately.  Stabbing pain in my joints that wake me from sleep and make me gasp in pain when I walk (but yes I’m still walking 99% of the time!).  I went to my appointment with the hope that I would get some relief.  But my doctor felt that I am “too young” to increase my pain meds.  I left feeling disappointed, a little angry, and still in pain.

On one hand I understand her concern.  If I have to keep increasing my pain meds now, what will I do in five, ten, or twenty years for my chronic pain?  What will I do if I end up in the hospital with an acute flare of Autoimmune Pancreatitis which is extremely painful and no pain meds will work anymore?

But on the other hand, I’m in pain now.  And despite what people what people might say, the unfortunate reality is that I’m not “too young” to be in this much pain.  And my age doesn’t make my pain any less painful or any less valid.  And my age especially doesn’t make my pain any less deserving of treatment.

Overall I’ve been happy with my pain specialist doctor.  I’m grateful that she is willing to prescribe me pain medication at all.  I went through several doctors before her who flat out refused to treat me because of my age.

The crux of the problem I think is that chronic pain is invisible.  No one can see my pain.  My pain specialist doctor certainly can’t.  Only I can feel it.  However, though my pain is invisible, I certainly am not.  And I cannot let my invisible pain (nor any of my other invisible illnesses) make me feel invisible.

So what do I do?

I need to speak up for myself and advocate for myself more.  I cannot let myself feel intimidated about telling my pain specialist that I disagree with her decisions.  If I shrink back and keep this to myself, I make myself invisible as my pain.

I also need to share my experience with the people in my life, so they can understand what I’m going through.  I’m not talking about whining about being in pain, but, in the appropriate settings, tell the people in my life what it feels like physically and emotionally to be in my shoes.  Part of that is this blog.  Sharing my journey on this blog helps me feel empowered and lets me make my invisible illness visible.

The bottom line is I am “too young” for just one thing… I am “too young” to let this beat me!

This week is Invisible Illness Awareness Week!  Nearly 1 in 2 people live w/ a chronic condition, most of them invisible. If it’s not you, it’s someone you love.  Help spread the word!

You have to take the good with the bad. I subscribe to this philosophy not just when it comes to my life but also when it comes to my favorite hobby – scrapbooking.

I started scrapbooking almost two years ago now. My mom had made me a beautiful scrapbook for my Bat Mitzvah when I was 13. She promised my younger sister Danielle the same thing. But life got in the way and my sister’s Bat Mitzvah scrapbook turned into a middle school graduation scrapbook then a high school graduation scrapbook and finally a college graduation scrapbook.

As Danielle’s college graduation approached my mom still hadn’t started the scrapbook. But I figured maybe I could help. After all, I was home all day with nothing to do. It might even be fun, I figured. I had no idea I would end up loving it so much, that I would find a hidden talent, and a passion… well more like an obsession.

When all was said and done, my sister’s college graduation scrapbook became a three volume set encompassing her entire life up until that point. It was time to move on to other things, so I started in on my own life.

While going through my own pictures from the last several years, there were many pertaining to my illness. Hospital stays, doctors appointments, and so on. There was even a birthday I spent in the hospital.

At first I was hesitant to include these not so happy memories in my scrapbook. But I realized that these were experiences that I also wanted to remember. These bad times in my life are part of what makes me who I am. So I put them in.

The actual time I spend scrapbooking is therapeutic. It exercises my creative muscles and helps me relax for a few hours while I design and arrange, cut and glue, label and decorate.

It’s actually rather therapeutic to scrapbook memories of my illness. Once it is scrapbooked, it feel more concretely in the past. And it can help me look to the future. For instance, I did a page of my me taking my first few steps when I first started walking again. Now I am able to walk around a store! I can look back and remember it and see how far I’ve come!

There are many things that define me a Novel Patient, mainly my collection of unusual illnesses, symptoms and side effects.  But one of them has nothing to do with being sick.  If you recall last November, I started writing a novel.  It’s working title is The Alone Elevator.  It’s a coming of age story set in a dystopian future about the pains and trials of going up and the importance of the freedom to think for yourself.  Here’s a brief summary:

Chosen to attend the prestigious Riddlebane Academy, Kylie Lockmore soon learns secrets that turn her world upside-down.  From the drug her grandmother invented to control the populace to the missing sister she never knew she had, Kylie is forced to question the truth and decide where she stands.

As I’ve been writing this novel I’ve been thinking lately about how I define myself.  So much of my life revolves around and is affected by my illness that it can sometimes feel that that is all I am.  But that is not how I want to be defined.  I am more than a sum of doctors appointments and hospital stays, symptoms and side effects, walkers and wheelchairs.  There are so many other things that define me.  And it occurs to me how important it is that I remember that.  I am a creative thinking feeling being.  I am a graphic and web designer, a scrapbooker, a novelist.  I am a daughter, a sister, a friend, a child of God.  I am so much more than just a “Novel Patient”.

But how do others see me?  Do they see just a “sick girl” with a walker?  Or do they see the real me?  I think that the more I define myself as I want to be defined the more people will see the me I want them to see.  If I focus on being a patient that is what will define me.  But if I focus on being a Novel PERSON…  well that is what I will be and radiate to the world.

Here is an excerpt from the first draft of my novel:

The Alone Elevator Chapter 1 Excerpt